Do people like you?

Interested in knowing how your personality development is coming along? Check out this test.
Are they absolutely sure, that 12 is the lowest score ever? Do I refrain from borrowing things? Well I certainly hope not! Do I refrain from talking rapidly and laughing loudly? I always thought they were a few of my best assets!
I seriously think I'm gonna be a record breaker here!


Every normal, healthy individual wants to be liked by others. If you have ever said that you didn't care whether or not people liked you, you probably weren't really honest with yourself. Perhaps you were trying to cover up hurt pride. The person who says bitterly, 'I don't care,' really does care a great deal. He should face the fact squarely and try to discover the reason for lack of harmony in his relationships with others.

Donald A. Laird, after a series of experiments made in the Colgate Psychological Laboratory to determine what traits were of most importance in making people liked or disliked, compiled the list of 45 questions which is quoted below.

TRAITS WHICH MAKE US LIKED Give yourself a score of 3 for each of these questions to which you can answer 'Yes':
1. Can you always be depended upon to do what you say you will?
2. Do you go out of your way cheerfully to help others?
3. Do you avoid exaggeration in all your statements?
4. Do you refrain from being sarcastic?
5. Do you refrain from showing off how much you know?
6. Do you feel inferior to most of your associates?
7. Do you refrain from bossing people not employed by you?
8. Do you keep from reprimanding people who do things that displease you?
9. Do you refrain from making fun of others behind their backs?
10. Do you keep from domineering others?



Give yourself a score of 2 for each of these questions to which you can answer 'Yes':
11. Do you keep your clothing neat and tidy?
12. Do you avoid being bold and nervy?
13. Do you refrain from laughing at the mistakes of others?
14. Is your attitude toward the opposite sex free from vulgarity?
15. Do you keep from finding fault with everyday things?
16. Do you let the mistakes of others pass without correcting them?
17. Do you loan things to others readily?
18. Are you careful not to tell jokes that will embarrass those listening?
19. Do you let others have their own way?
20. Do you always control your temper?
21. Do you keep out of arguments?
22. Do you smile pleasantly?
23. Do you refrain from talking almost continuously?
24. Do you keep your nose entirely out of other people's business?

Give yourself a score of 1 for each of these questions to which you can answer 'Yes':
25. Do you have patience with modern ideas?
26. Do you refrain from flattering others?
27. Do you avoid gossiping?
28. Do you refrain from asking people to repeat what they have just said?
29. Do you avoid asking questions in keeping up a conversation?
30. Do you avoid asking favors of others?
31. Do you refrain from trying to reform others?
32. Do you keep your personal troubles to yourself?
33. Are you natural rather than dignified?
34. Are you usually cheerful?
35. Are you conservative in politics?
36. Are you enthusiastic rather than lethargic?
37. Do you pronounce words correctly?
38. Do you look upon others without suspicion?
39. Are you energetic?
40. Do you avoid borrowing things?
41. Do you refrain from telling people their moral duty?
42. Do you refrain from trying to convert people to your beliefs?
43. Do you refrain from talking rapidly?
44. Do you refrain from laughing loudly?
45. Do you refrain from making fun of people to their faces?

The higher your score by this self-analysis the better liked you are in general. Each 'No' answer should be changed through self-guidance into a 'Yes' answer. The highest possible score is 79. About 10% of people have this score. The lowest score made by a person who was generally liked was 56.
The average young person has a score of 64. The average score of a person who is generally disliked is 30.
The lowest score we found was 12.
From these questions it is apparent that whether you are liked or disliked depends chiefly upon your attitude toward others. All your efforts at self-improvement will be of no avail if you think only of building up your own superiority. The consciously superior, the self-righteous person is never popular. If you would be liked, don't try to impress the other person with your importance; make him feel important; show your interest in him.

Okay, so you might be a bit disappointed with the outcome of your popularity? Or you might be feeling righteously smug with yourself. In either case it would be wise to keep in mind it's a test from 1939.